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November 25, 2007


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My 14 month old has had night terrors from day one. He was colic,-which I personally think is a word to describe what they dont know how to cure. He is getting 3 teeth at once now, and is completely misserable. My inlaws tell me all the time how Im doing this to myself by not letting him cry it out, and that if I would just stick him in his crib I would get a good nights rest. To them I dont do anything right. But I find it hard to believe he is screeming bloody terror just cause I wont let him cry at night. Something is obviously wrong, I just dont know how to fix it.

I've so been there. You're not alone.

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So. Been. There.

I am currently working on this very thing. I feel so guilty when I do yell at her in the middle of the night, so I'm trying to not do it. But it's hard when you are so sleep deprived! It's got to be so much harder without your husband there to help out!

During the Pumpkin's last round of teething, I was wondering why post-pardum duolas aren't marketed to moms who have babies who are teething or going through sleep regressions of any sort. Would a duola even do that? Why is it assumed that moms don't need help after the first month or two?

Hope it gets better soon, for all of us!

I've done this. And the guilt just killed me. I know I'm supposed to forgive myself for losing my mind at that moment, but it still haunts me now and then, nearly three years later.

So I am not the only mom who does that. Awesome.

Been there. Pregnant again and not looking forward to those nights.

I actually stomped my foot at Boog last week. He's developed this high pitched brat scream that he does just when he doesn't get his way and I'd had it. That sort of thing makes me feel bad but I think it's normal and we all have our flaws, mothers are human too.

Childrens Tylenol or Advil, Advil works longer and better usually.
I remember those days doing all by myself every 2-3 hours, you go crazy for lack of sleep.

My 3rd DD brought that out in me. I screamed too, ;-( that being said she loves me to pieces now, and while we feel like a bag of sh*t after they will still love ud in the end.

It is hard when a husband travels, mine does too. All those nights alone are hard, but we made it thru them. You will too.


The Poo slept through the night from two months until last February. From that point on she was a mess. We are just now getting four or five consecutive nights of full sleep again - and she is nearly three years old.

Kristen, many many times my voice was gruff and angry with her in the middle hours of the night.

You aren't alone and Christina is right - he won't remember.

You will. And that is the cruelest part.

Wishing you hours of rest, both of you.

Been there too. So don't want to go back. I screamed too and then would end up in a crying jag right along with her.

It will get better. Hang in there.

I'm there many nights, too. Mira used to sleep most of the night, only waking once, sometimes twice. But now it's 3-4 times a night, and I'm lucky to get 2 or 3 hours of sleep.

It sucks, but know that you're not the only one awake at that hour. And we'll quietly remind ourselves, even through the screaming, that it will pass eventually.

But don't feel bad for screaming back. Sometimes you have to, and they're too young to remember, thank goodness.

I know how you feel. I've been there before and it's not easy. The only thing that kept me going was knowing that it couldn't last forever. I don't know if that helps you at all, but I know it helped me. It will stop, but you will have a hundred more gray hairs by the time it does.

Kristen, we're still up every 2 hours. I know your frustration, truly. truly. truly.

Alone, too. that's the worst of it all... and mine is still IN the house.

Oh, how I've been there. Too many late nights, a husband unavailable to do nights, working late, away on business. Too little sleep (always the sleep, the catalyst for reality breaks). Too much frustration.

I hope, everyday, that she will never remember it.

Hoping for better nights ahead for you.

I remember those nights well. The exhaustion was overwhelming. I didn't yell much because I tend to cry when stressed. I would plead with my daughter to please, PLEASE go to sleep. I hope the teething ends soon. Take care and you are not alone.


Sometimes the frustration and irrationality just hits such a crescendo.

It sure is nice to hear someone be frank about how they feel about their kid. My heart ached as I read the post. I've been there and the memories are still very fresh. My little boy had colic and acid reflux from the day we brought him home. He cried constantly and didn't smile for 3 months. I would sit up with him at 2am absolutely hating the creature I brought home from the hospital. I couldn't talk to anyone because all my friends seemed so happy to be a mom & I hated it. I felt horrible. He's almost 3 now and things are good. I won't have another one because I can't bear to put myself through that again. I know, everyone says the 2nd one will be totally different. I also know it could be A LOT worse. Thank you for saying the things many mothers feel but are too afraid to say. There are some teething tablets that are all natural - including chamomile to help them sleep - that I found helped a lot. You can find them at Walgreens.

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BTDT with the screaming. I swear sometimes my daughter won't go to sleep unless I SCREAM at her, IT'S BEDTIME NOW! Let her get really mad at me. She's 21M and wakes every HOUR.

That feeling sits like a rock in the pit of my stomach. It's in the past, but still vivid. You are NOT alone.

(((hugs))) I have been there, am still there. 14.5 mths of 2hrly wakings.

Sometimes you just get so frustrated with them. ITS SLEEP TIME! SLEEP ALREADY!

I think that past a certain point of chronic sleep deprivation, an important, basic part of your brain becomes so depleted from exhaustion that it ceases to be able to identify the screaming creature that just woke you up for the third time in a row tonight as your very own helpless infant.

And that important, basic part of your brain wrests control from the rational part, and makes you scream the same way you would at anything else that was torturing you, even though the rational part of your brain still knows that screaming is stupid and will not help.

Been there. It sucks. Nothing else I can say will make it better and there are a lot of things that people can say to make you feel worse. So I will stop now.

Sorry. I meant to type Benadryl.

Don't hit me, but I think I may be the only parent who had kids with no teething problems.

But I will say that for now getting rid of any routine in the middle of the night may be key. If you have a recliner, you can just rock him to sleep and nurse him, and you can just fall asleep with him. Then you will both be ok in the morning until he gets through it.

Don't worry about making him "dependent on you".

If all else fails, try 1/2 teaspoon of dye-free liquid benedryl. It's EXTREMELY safe and not like the other stuff you read about in all those news reports. The pharmy gave me that dose for my 20lb kid when she had baby measles or something.

My favourite stress reliever was to make a fist and pretend I was beating the child over the head with it, all the while making cartoon-y explosion noises.
Juvenile, but it helped.
And, it didn't scare the kid.

I wish I could say "I've been there". I can say I AM THERE WITH YOU--right now. My little guy is almost 16 months, gets one lowly tooth at a time and cries in the night almost every night. I lay there and weigh the horrible-mommy options: let him lay there alone and in pain with no relief, OR go to him, give him Tylenol (DYE FREE!!!)& 3 Hylands teething tabs, and make sure he's okay and breast feed him back to sleep. On the odd nights I let him cry it out... he trumps me and has diarrhea in the night and ends up with a terrible rash the next morning. Add 10 points to the vote for Horrible Mommy of the Year!!

Yeah... and when the Huz is gone 5 nights a week, there is no relief. There is nobody else to take a shift. NOBODY.

I just keep thinking "Someday he will want nothing to do with me. I must get my cuddles in now, even at really bad hours of the night." It works for me. It has to.



Word, dude.

Oh I so know exactly what you mean. I wish I had something to say or do to help...I know sometimes my mind just ran in circles begging for relief. Hang in there.

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You just made the twitches come back. I've been there and am still feeling the stress from it. I think moms should get compensation for post traumatic stress disorder at the hands of their ever-wakeful infants.

I used to just stand there, crying, begging my daughter "WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME?!" Like an infant had an ulterior motive or something.

Those exhausted hours where you are the only one the baby wants are probably the longest and hardest. I can still feel the frustration and anxiety it induced in me - I'm wishing you strength, sleep, and a goddamn break.

Two thing I learned through three of them teething. Childrens/infants ibuprofen is magic.
Numzit stuff of any sort if crap. I learned that one on my own, when I had an abcess. It worked at first, and then when I wore off the pain came back SCREAMING to me worse.
I feel your pain......sometimes there is nothing left to do but cry yourself.


my first reaction to your post was "OMG, i used to do the exact same thing!" it was like reading a secret on postsecret.com and realizing i'm not the only one.

thank you for sharing that. (hang in there, it'll get better.)

I've been there. My daughter was the slowest teether and didn't sleep through the night until she was over 2 years old. This is where living with your husband should help. My husband was grumpily good at taking her for one of the wake-ups at night when he knew I was about to lose my mind. I hope that yours steps up to the plate.

I would growl at times. The frustration and being so tired, I didn't even have words for it.

Then they become teenagers. And I'm back to growling at times.

I know how you feel. I have been there. Night terrors every night for so many years left me mentally exhausted. And I did scream and PunditGirl at times -- like I thought it would change anything. All I can say is hang in there.

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