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November 12, 2007


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My girls kick MY ass on the XBox!!! and they're only 2! They already have their own laptop that runs Linux, and can play all kinds of games on that. They love to match the duckies... They also can take my iPhone and find their favorite Dora or Wonder Pets videos that I've saved to it...
Sure we still play dress up, and color turkeys or whatever the holiday is... we read.. but when i need a free minute.. I have no shame!

My son is such a little gamer geek, there is no denying it. He didn't begin to play games seriously until last year when he was 4, but now it's all he ever wants to do. He will forgo food just for 10 more minutes to play Spyro. It's crazy. I don't mind him playing games when it's time for downtime. However, no you can not stay home from school because you just made it to level two on Frogger! Beware, it is a parents duty to monitor the use of entertainment devices. Failure to monitor such things will develop in the next generation of couch potatoes and obesity! LOL.

My son is such a little gamer geek, there is no denying it. He didn't begin to play games seriously until last year when he was 4, but now it's all he ever wants to do. He will forgo food just for 10 more minutes to play Spyro. It's crazy. I don't mind him playing games when it's time for downtime. However, no you can not stay home from school because you just made it to level two on Frogger! Beware, it is a parents duty to monitor the use of entertainment devices. Failure to monitor such things will develop in the next generation of couch potatoes and obesity! LOL.

My son is such a little gamer geek, there is no denying it. He didn't begin to play games seriously until last year when he was 4, but now it's all he ever wants to do. He will forgo food just for 10 more minutes to play Spyro. It's crazy. I don't mind him playing games when it's time for downtime. However, no you can not stay home from school because you just made it to level two on Frogger! Beware, it is a parents duty to monitor the use of entertainment devices. Failure to monitor such things will develop in the next generation of couch potatoes and obesity! LOL.

Perhaps I should send you the Disney Princess Wii game I just got in the mail.


this is where i admit something awful...i am thankful my marriage is ending in a divorce because: he's a gamer and i won't have to fight with him about where to hide the ps2.

when little A__ (all of 14 months old) goes to his house for the day, she sits next to him on the floor with a broken controller and pretends to play with him. i find it all very terrifying.

Can we tawk about your new banner? Love.

Oh, and I'm a gamer. My husband's a gamer. Our kid's a gamer. But we also stress to him that gaming is to be enjoyed in moderation, and he spends a large amount of time playing outside, playing with legos, and reading. We also have a no-video-games-on-school-days rule. He's a healthy, active, well-rounded kid.

We also firmly believe that playing games can be very beneficial. They can sharpen your mind, improve your hand-eye coordination, build problem solving skills, and stimulate the imagination. I mean, if the game you gave Quinlan has a memory matching game, that's fairly clearly improving her memory and recall, right?

We don't do the DVD player in the car though--it's a strange fixation my husband and I share. We play car games with him instead. Oddly, we'll let him watch laptop movies for airplane rides though. Hypocritical much, mm? ;)

I think this has kind of been floating around in my head for awhile, but your post about Quinlan's (excellent name, by the way--my name is Quinn) new princess game sort of put things together. I loved princesses as a child. I loved princesses and Barbies and faeries and all of that nauseating, stereotypically girly stuff. But I still grew up to be an intelligent, independent woman--a feminist, even, who has gone to protests and worked to protect victims of domestic violence.

My parents didn't really channel my interest in princesses and Barbies, though they could have. As it was I became more interested in active princesses like Amy in The Ordinary Princess and Cimorene in The Enchanted Forest Chronicles. And, of course Ella in Ella Enchanted (though she came out later). You might want to try one of those princesses out on Quinlan--Amy in particular she might identify with, because the book makes a big deal out of her brown hair and freckles. (None of the books is big on pictures, though I'm sure there are butt kicking princesses in picture books as well.) And, of course, Disney's Belle is only an honorary princess, but she is certainly a big reader.

The game that you mention can also be super cool. My grandmother happened to give me a Barbie sewing game as a child and I *really* got into making clothes for my Barbie. I also *adored* dressing up. Later I turned that interest in costumes into research papers on the history of early medieval clothing and theatrical costume design. There's nothing intrinsically bad about fashion and costuming, and there is, in fact, a great deal of strength and empowerment in the theatre and costuming communities. At the very least building princess gowns is a really good way for her to be creative. You might also want to consider getting her some cheap fabric and helping her to wrap it around herself and fasten it with rubber bands or (with your help) safety pins. Oh, and ridiculous outfits from goodwill make great costumes--my favorite costumes were my grandmother's old ballgowns and my mom's bridesmaid dresses. :)

Anyway. Just thoughts. I certainly understand your concern. Quinlan is adorable. :)

Our 4 year old doesn't have an x-box or anything, but he loves his v-smile, and the games are educational (matching, early reading, patterns,etc.) he loves it, and frankly, any time that he's not talking (he talks constantly) keeps me sane. He also LOVES noggin.com games and we don't get popup ads so i don't worry about him clicking on a porn site. Once he got the hang of using the mouse it was awesome. We just have to tear him away from it when i decide time's up.

We've got a PS1 from our single days hooked up in the spare bedroom. No one plays it. Dawson likes to dig through all the games and sometimes asks me to put the "racecar game" on, but he just watches the cars sit there because like I said, we don't know how to play it. Doug does, but he never has time to show us and I'm okay with that.

I have to say I like your old blog design better, maybe because I am a pervert. I never did understand why Waffle House had such a plain, bold sign. I grew up on IHOP.

We love computer and video games. I am not a gamer...my husband is not a gamer....but you should see how computer savvy my four year old has become. Learning how to properly start up and shut down, learning where different letter keys are, right clicking, navigating around. My son is left handed, but at his last perceptual motor development appointment, he had almost identical ability in his right hand, as his left...the reason? The computer mouse. :) Like everyone has been saying...Everything in moderation.

While I'm sticking hard and fast to the no video games for my little people (have two girls in college who never played) I am interested in the diva cup. If it showed up at my house, I would use it, but ordering it for $35 seems too hard.

My kids stay on the computer beyond the point of no return with the bathroom. Is you crazy to think your daughter wouldn't be totally captivated by that game? My almost 16 year old we be into that game, let alone my 5 and 7 year olds. Gamers know how to capture and steal kids' imaginations. It is definitely a tool to use carefully.

My kids love their video games. The nice thing is, that when you need to punish them, it's your weapon and it brings them down fast, lol.

I tried hard to be the anti-gamer momma. But the kids wore me down, my dumbass brother bought them a system with out asking and curiosity got the better of me.

I do limit the time they are allowed to play on the system, but I also try to play with them. I'm getting my ass kicked on a regular basis, but hey, I'm the COOL mom. I play with them instead of nag at 'em.

Works for us.

I tried to be anti-video game. I really, REALLY tried. But my four year old loves them. He has the leapster, and he also has some of those standalone games that are reminiscent of early Nintendo run and jumps. You know, the kind that have the handheld controller and that's all there is to it?

I think it's all about balance, I make sure that for every five minutes he spends playing a video game, he has ten times that in other activities.

I would prefer that my kids didn't play with video games. I suspect, though, that it's inevitable. Technology (video games, computers...) is just a part of life.

computer time is my 7 year old's *only* weakness. mwuhahahahaha! actually, it's a reward. she visits barbie.com. tamagachi.com, etc. it's a restrcited access account and i'm okay with that - she learns how to live in our computer based word . . .

*BTW, thanks for the shout-out re: diva cup vs. IUD . . . but i stand "frim" - GO IUD!

My daughter loves her computer games - nick.com and pbskids.org in particular. She also loves a trip to the playground, her tumbling class, and riding her bike so I think we're good.

Gwendo --

Too late. I had on a tiara while I typed the post.

Damn! Here I was all set to send you a cute little photo of a diva cup. I'm all for going green but what about Insteads?

argh you beyatch! i wanted to go all explosive troll on yr southern ass and you totally stole my prediction in your last paragraph! damnit!
add...'in a princess tiara!'

My 5 year old play World of Warcraft along with us. Great for hand-eye coordination and tons of problem solving. Oh and she reads the quests herself and figures out what she needs to do and where to go on the map. She does this all herself. My husband started her off when she was 3 and she'd sit in his lap because she couldn't read then. So he'd help her out a bit. But now she plays on her own.

My 2 year old shares her chair when she's playing and coaches (read: back seat drives).

They also play the Mia games and some games on the Sesame Street and Noggin websites.

That's only when they have a LOT of down time though. Usually, they're reading, playing with toys, outside at the park, riding their bikes, doing worksheets, playing with cards, or coloring.

I'm all for computer games. My husband and I are gamers and our philosophy is that the family that plays together, stays together.

I have a 4 year old gamer too. We actually encouraged it, both being gamer geeks as well. I never did get her a V-smile, she went right to the X-Box. She only has a hand held game boy because she found it and we couldn't find the owners. I believe anything can have educational value. If anything, it teaches hand eye coordination.

My son (3) has played some video games. He seems to have this thing where if he gets something he will play for hours and I think I've corrupted him. And then he gets over that thrill and as much as he loves the toy it's not the constant playing.
I think it's like everything else.
But, then you pull that item out when it's needed (i.e. travel) and god bless the technology gods!

Tacy plays World of Warcraft.

But she also swims and bikes and jumps on the mini-trampoline and reads and draws and spells incessantly.

And I have to choose my battles and my worries. Gaming's not at the top of the list.

My kids are so gamers. We gave my 5 year old a gameboy for her birthday last year. This year for Christmas, we are thinking of getting the girls a Wii for Xmas. My three year old loves to sit and "play" with her dad.

I have two very avid ittle "gamers" - The 9 year old amazes me with it. Watching him play them, I have told him with that hand/eye coordination he is going to learn an instrument (piano, guitar, something!). And my 3 year old loves them too and is really good, mostly from watching his older brother. He's been dominating Mario since he was about 18 months too.

But that isn't ALL they do either. There are books, trampoline, bikes, ball, playground...

I have the extreme relatives too, the ones that don't even want their 18 month old in the same room if a TV is on because it 'dumbs them down'. I just roll my eyes and show them my kids' Honor Roll Certificate and brag about his accomplishments in the G&T program.

Cordy hasn't played any video games yet, but we thought about getting her a V-Smile system for Christmas. Like TV time, it would be regulated so she wouldn't be using it all day.

There's nothing wrong with video games as long as they're age appropriate (No Grand Theft Auto here) and not taking up an entire day.

I'm all for using technology however you can. Funny how parents never really change. Look at us talking about things and trying to do our best (even though we may screw up?)

Remember the kids who had crappy parents when we were growing up? My parents beat the hell out of me. I would have loved to have been sent to my room with some video games!!!

Technology isn't gonna make you neglectful or bad. If you're conscious of your kids and care about them, then you're gonna do the right thing and gonna make your mistakes along the way. Leash or no leash? It sure beats the hell out of a kidnapped or runover kid. Besides, you gotta walk a mile in another parent's shoes...

Bad parents are gonna be bad parents regardless. Video games and computers don't change that. (It's not that I'm excusing it). If it was the 70s now, it would just be a different "poison".

It's the parents who just use the stuff as a "babysitter" and never spend any time with the kid. But those aren't the parents writing on here.

Frankly a child's laptop sounds like a dream for the ghastly 35-40 hour airplane trip I am about to take with my Crabtot (Wyoming to Africa!) Pity she is only 3 and can't get super-into it yet. In my dreams that she could play Cinderella the Exploring Princess for a solid 24 hrs!!!

And I hate to say it but Crabtot sports bright orange crocs. Courtesy of her father. At least I didn't name her Utahna. A name showcased today over at Crabmommy@cookie mag. Please do enjoy a delightful new crop of baby names, courtesy of Mormon Utah...because of course you have nothing better to do, people.

Must run. Aquanetta needs go potty!

Mine likes computer games. I've found a few educational sites I let him play on. I want to get him one of the fisher price bike-game things... But his attention span for those things is significantly shorter than for playing with cars and trains.

Oh, and he ADORES his leash.

My niece has that Leapster thing and she adores it. But mostly it's for the car. She's 3 and she really doesn't play with it at home. Video games have their place. If it gives you peace and quiet for a short amount of time, I'd say go for it. Truth is, learning to play games, whether it's on PS2 or leapster (or the nine million others out there), helps them learn to navigate a compter easier later.

My child will only play with sticks and dirt and toys that he will build from all the recycled materials in our home.

Or maybe not.

We allow computer and television in moderation. I love hand-held games for some car rides and long waits, but otherwise, it's very limited.

With my kids, I do notice a difference in their behavior toward other humans when they've spent too much time in front of a screen. And technology with all it's wonders will always get put on the high shelf if its use in any way precipitates my kids' becoming monsters to each other. Or to me. Or to anyone.

I know kids will argue over a stick. But, there is something in particular about those screens and altering brainwaves, from what I gather, that can be especially difficult to break away from and then transition into different brain activity that makes being nice to one's neighbor an easy task.

I'm no luddite by a long shot. And I know that screen are used for homework and for artistic creation. But I have also seen how screen time can be problematic even for big kids (aka adults) and a really big problem for certain individuals; when anything gets in the way of relationships - screens or books or cardboard boxes - then I do an immediate halt and an in-depth second look-see before adding it back to our entertianment "diet".

Everything in moderation, I say. The stuff is fun for them, and us, so why not? Of course you won't go overboard and give your kids ADHD from the constant shots of stimulation to the brain that they get hooked on. And then they have to rattle and shake themselves and can't stay focused because they're hooked on the junk.

I know this isn't true for every kid with ADHD, but the evidence for this theory is appalling. And most of us (I'm hoping) know that theories aren't just ideas scientists dream up while they're sitting on the toilet picking at their feet.

Everything in moderation.

I am all for it as long as games are appropriate. Kids are growing up in a way different world. My kid will probably have a laptop by the time she is in first grade. I didn't get my first laptop til I was a junior in college.

My kids have little to no interest in games like that. We've gotten gifts, and we give it a go, but...

My friend has an MA in ECL and she's usually the one encouraging it. Her kids have their own little computer and setup in the playroom and are experts.

My six year old is learning computers in school and just began getting interested in the drawing game we have.

I think it just depends, you know? On you, your kid, the game and so forth. How everyone handles it, balances it. I think a lot of things for kids have benefit, in moderation.

But, then again, I let my kids watch TV...sometimes so I can blog. So take my opinion for what it's worth. ;)

Using My Words

I'm not averse to it. Frankly, I think the world has changed to such a degree that it's ridiculous to assume that we should "shelter" kids from things that we all take for granted and play with regularly. They're cleverly creating these adult toys for kids in an actually educational framework, so I can appreciate and respect it. Think back to our toys and TV shows, and I'm sure you'll agree that there were nowhere near as many things that were meant to teach us. Stuff. To make us SMRT. With the shiny big brains.

Kids this days are inundated with the educational and the developmental. Use the tools available. And then encourage them to use their imagination. This makes for a powerful combination IMO.

Yep, we do some computer games, but we're very selective about what they play, and how long. Screen time is screen time in my book, but hey, it can free you up for a few brief moments to fold laundry, scour the floors (yeah right), have a nooner? Just try not to get caught playing the games yourself, they can be addictive, and when the games over, it's hard to turn the controlls back over to the intended audience... "No honey, Mommy just has to get seven more galexy seeds and then rescue the princess and then..."

Oh, my kids game alright. My oldest played playstation starting at 4. And the fight....oh the fight we went through because he wanted to play it more than the "experts" recommended.

Well, having to parent outside of the box like I do for him, I totally let him have at it. I let him play as long as he waned. He played ALL of the time for about a month.

Then he stopped.

Today, he'll choose playing outside over video games. He'll work on his novels over playing games. He'd rather read sometimes than get on the PS2.

Just goes to show what "experts" know.

My husband is prone to hours and hours in front of one of his 5 video game systems. And back in the day I was prone to sitting right there with him helping him through Zelda levels with official cheat book in hand. This was of course before Boog when I had time for such things.

These days neither of us really has time for video games but after seeing it suck literally hours away I do think when that time comes I will be putting some limits on Boog's time sitting in front of the game system. However, I don't see any problem with it for car rides, long waits, etc. as you said. I think those are specific situations where technology is our friend for sure.

Trust me, if Boog would watch the DVD thingie in the car there are certainly times when I would love to turn that thing on even now.

We have a Leapster that my 3 & 4 year old love. They play it for 15-20 minutes at a time. Sometimes they will play it off and on all day, sometimes a couple weeks will go by before they pick it up. I think in moderation video games are fine.

But I wear crocs in my yard, have used a child harness & have a Diva cup so what do I know? :)

Garrett just turned three and got a v-smile (v-tech?) video game...which he loves! He loves to play it, and he even loves to watch someone else play it.

I say embrace technology! Can the few minutes of peace it brings really be all that bad? After all, studies have shown that surgeons who play(ed) video games perform better than those who don't...

We have a V-Smile and my 4 year old plays some xbox 360 games with me. I think it's ok as long as they would still rather go to a playground.

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