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October 01, 2008


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But don't you occasionally sneak into her room, like the mommy in "Love You Forever," and see the baby you snuggled and cuddled and fed and kissed incessantly?

That's the one thing I'm going to miss the most - the moment that I tiptoe into her room to peek at her sleeping, looking like the sweet baby I knew, and suddenly, one day, she'll LOOK grown up.

What a wonderful way of putting things into perspective. This passage reads like a poem...and is just as inspiring.

On the days that you fall down, remember this day when you gave her a "rose in December". Lovely, just lovely.

Try letting her take a bunch of pictures all on her own. You'll see what she sees. What she thinks is pretty, interesting, or important to her. My kids use my camera all the time, and I have a special folder where I store them all. It'll really change your perspective on things.

As my first born rounds the corner to fourteen, I too am amazed as how difficult and wonderful it can all be. I enjoyed reading your post.

Great post! My daughter is only 2 and so affectionate. I'm enjoying every hug and kiss. They grow so fast.

I hope that you are feeling well. Great post. It inspired me to think and write of my little princess.

As Gretchen Rubin wrote, "the days may go by slowly sometimes yet the years go by fast." You are my computer writing break "snack" this morning - thank you for such a wonderful post

Some days I wonder why my late, last baby grows so darn fast?! Doesn't he understand that this time, unlike with his sisters, I have time to hang out with him, enjoy his every smile, play every game? With them I couldn't wait for milestones like self-feeding and potty trained status, cause every milestone made my life a bit easier. I don't need that now, yet still he's already THIS big when I wanted to enjoy him at this big a little longer!

On the other hand, my daughter's mother in law to be is already asking about grandchildren. I'd just as soon NOT go there for another year or ten.

"It is amazingly more complicated to parent a child than it is to care for a baby."

I really like that. So very true.

So beautiful K. I imagine she'll go in and out of phases where it's acceptable to kiss her cheeks. But something tells me, in the end, it will be more than acceptable. it will be great.

One of the treasures of having a special needs child is that they grow up a little more slowly so you can actually watch the grass grow so to speak. I want to be able to kiss the cheeks forever- I know what you mean.

Perfectly said.

And this life is very very good, isn't it?


When the baby is old enough, you and your family must come to Chateau Travolta. We have princess gear and attitude in spades. Seriously.

kind of nice, kind of sad, why do they have to grow so fast

Ok, make me cry why don't you? This was a beautiful post, Kristen. I'll tell you, I adore the people my girls are becoming. Do they make me crazy? Of course. But they are the most amazing human beings.

I still kiss Maya's cheeks and she's almost seven. *sob*

That was gorgeous. I spent a good hour last night just sitting next to my boys in the floor playing with a little ball. We had a blast and giggled our heads off. I force myself to stop and enjoy the moments because I know they pass so quickly. I spend a lot of my time in the floor with my little one's these days.

this is so touching even for someone that doesn't have kids yet. but i can't wait to one day experience those feelings exactly.

This is absolutely beautiful - I'm tearing up. Thanks for the reminder to slow down.

The best piece of advice I got during my first pregnancy was not to worry about the pregnancy or the birth, but to spend the time thinking about what kind of parent I wanted to be. Parenting goes on much, much longer than pregnancy, doesn't it?

This is exactly what I could write today, entering the lovely month where my daughter turns 10. 10! The years are flying by and I am so thrilled to be part of her life as she grows.

Such a treasure this will be for Quinlan someday, to look back and know how you felt at this time. Beautifully written, Kristen, so nicely done.

Very well written. It's the words that I have been seeking to express how I feel. Thank you.

Katie ~
I'm glad I came back to read some of the comments. Yours gave me pause. My girls are (almost) 2 and 5 years old... and many times I find myself in a hurry to get to the next thing like you said. I know how precious they are, but sometimes it's easy to forget how soon it will be gone.

Tonight, I am going to remember to stop and soak it all in. Thank you.

"The biggest mistake I made as a parent is the one that most of us make. . . . I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of my three children sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer day, ages six, four, and one. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it done a little less” -Anna Quindlen

I say that about my Ami everyday. At 2, he's already a man!

I always knew I wanted to be a mother and, honestly, he challenges that everyday. Already, he doesn't want me kissing him in public - and he's 2!

Since the very first day, each day following has been harder and easier. Every time I think we've mastered something - nursing, eating solids, walking - there's some new challenge to overcome - potty training, tantrums, shouting curse words at the top of his lungs while we're in the grocery store. It never ends and it's all difficult but there's a beauty in it that only a mother can understand. Giving birth to him made me a mother. Parenting him is making me a woman.

'till next time...

I was trying to explain this exact concept to my husband last night to no avail. I just couldn't find the right words to make someone else understand these feelings. You hit the nail right on the head. Thank you.

Those be some keesable cheeks.

very sweet. i too kiss and cuddle my kids incessantly.

It is hard as they grow up but you will enjoy so much in the process. Now Princess and I can read to eachother and talk about girly things and as she continues to grow, new things will be added to replace the old things we used to do.

Enjoy it hun!

What a beautiful post! You sum up how I feel when I get to study my three year old daughter in our quieter moments. She has such an intense way of looking at me sometimes when she desperately wants the answer to one of her (many) questions!
As for the cheek kissing...its hard to keep her still enough these days so we play the game of Lets Pretend Mummys Lips Are Stuck To My Cheek When She Kisses Me Goodnight! Works like a charm every time!

I love it. It's how I'm feeling now with my 2.5 y/o. It's a huge challenge understanding her tantrums and the mumbled words between her sobs and screams. Sometimes she really makes me crazy but I see her struggling to make me understand, herself understand growing up. I feel like she needs me now most.

Beautiful. I feel much the way about my 5 year old son. He's become such a cool little man with all these interests and thoughts and questions. Sometimes I look at his face, especially when he's asleep, and I can still see the baby in him. I'm just thrilled he still likes to cuddle, not looking forward to the day when he won't let me.

It is amazing that no matter how old they get they still need us in some way or another. Just as they are growing in being a child and evolving into who they become we are constantly evolving into a different parent to who they are.

Great Post!

I loved how you said "the one who made me a mother". I never really thought of it that way with my oldest child... but it's true, and it's a lovely thought.

And yes, I still feast on my both of my girl's adorable cheeks daily! :-D I'd like to think by the end of their lives that *I* will have the title of giving them more kisses than any other person in the whole wide world.

However, I know if they grow up happy, and find a life partner - that I might have to graciously give up my rights to that title.

Great post today.

That was beautiful and made me teary. I feel like my 15 month old was a newborn just yesterday. Have to go steal a hug and bite his cheeks now.

I kiss and touch my boys' cheeks incessantly, realizing that one day when I do it I will notice that they need a shave. Scary thought!

where does the time go? It's hard to believe how much children learn and grow in such a short amount of time. Wouldn't it be great if we as parents could keep their pace?

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